My family and I were out at a pizza place recently. It was a typical pizza place with video games and things for kids to do.
There was another family a few tables away. Soon I hear the sound of a small child crying. Loudly, like he had been hurt. A few minutes later I see the mother arguing with her daughter, who I would guess was 13 or 14. The mom was blonde and very hot but had that same stressed out, why-is-life-so-hard? look that most women in their 30s have. She was clearly upset at her daughter. The daughter had the typical snotty attitude most 13 year-old girls take with their mothers.
The exchange went like this. Most of the quotes are quoted verbatim.
Mom: Do NOT hit your brother! You hear me? Do NOT hit him!
Girl (defiant, getting in her mom’s face): God. What’s the big deal?
Mom: He’s half your size! Look at the size difference between you two!
Girl: Oh, he can play soccer. But he’s too small to stand up for himself? Yeah right.
Mom (getting very upset, getting even closer to her daughter’s face): Don’t you ever hit him again! Do you hear me?
Girl: He yelled at me.
Mom: Because you took his money!
Girl: Only two quarters!
The argument went on and on like this. It’s indicative of woman logic from both sides of the equation, the defiant young “independent” woman (I use that term very losely, that’s why it’s in quotes) and the “responsible” mother (again, the quotes).
Notice a few things:
1. The daughter had a quick response for everything her mom threw at her. Everything. The problem is, every one of her responses were completely, utterly illogical. The daughter was probably a normal, intelligent gal, but her responses made her sound like some quick-draw retard.
2. The daughter was 100% convinced she was in the right. It was not an act. She literally thought smacking her little brother after stealing some of his money was a perfectly acceptable thing to do and her mom was just being a fuckin’ bitch who should get off her back and leave her alone. I promise you the very next phone call she made or texts she sent was something to do with how much of a “bitch” her mom was.
3. All the mom did was repeat herself and raise her voice. That’s it. No punishments, no consequences. I couldn’t quite tell but I would bet $50 from that symptom alone that this woman was a single mother with guilt issues. (I did not see a man in the family group that looked within the age range to be the woman’s husband, but I could be wrong).
Women are dreadful at actually providing boundaries and consequences for their children, single mothers even more so. They’re great at nurturing and kissing boo-boos. But when it comes to actually setting boundaries for their children, sticking to them, and punishing them when the kids cross those boundaries on purpose, women are helpless. They just don’t know how to do it.
I’ve seen women who were tough, badass corporate vice presidents or lawyers crumble like little pussies in front of their tiny whining children. It’s pathetic.
I’ve raised two teenage children. My son just turned 20 and my daughter is 13 going on 25. I love my daughter more than anything in the world, but I guarantee you if she had done what this gal did, there would have been no discussion and no argument. I would have instantly confiscated her cell phone and sent her out to the car to sit there alone for the rest of the evening. She would not have used woman logic on me because I would not have given her the opportunity to do so in the first place.
As much as I hate to say this, that mother asked for that horrible disrespect. You don’t argue with an angry 13 year-old girl full of defiance and woman logic. You punish them and remove them from other human beings ASAP. The sad part of this is that option probably didn’t even occur to the mother. She likely thought it would have been “mean” to do something like that. Much better to get more and more angry, yell louder and louder, get your daughter more and more angry, increase the distrust, and damage the mother/daughter relationship even further.
Oh yes, much better than punishing.
So next time you’re getting woman logic from your girlfriend, wife, fuck buddy, a woman you’re on a date with, female coworker or friend, realize that this is where woman logic comes from. First, it starts when women are very young. Before adolescence even, though early adolescence is proably where it waxes greatest. Then it is unwittingly drawn out and encouraged by a woman’s mother, who uses her own form of woman logic during the child-rearing process (“punishing is mean”, etc).
She gets another healthy dose of this poison from her preteen girlfriends, who themselves all have mothers full of it, most of them single mothers or mothers on second husbands.
Finally, years later, this little girl now all grown up, explains to you with a straight face that she can’t have sex with you because it’s “only the third date”, even though she did fuck Larry last month, who never took her out on a date in his life, but that was different since her and him weren’t “dating”, see, YOU have to take her out on more dates if you want to have sex with her, because blah blah blah…
Woman logic. Now you know.
And knowing is half the battle.