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-By Caleb Jones
If you’ve read my primary book you already know that every man has seven life areas, or SLA. Any way in which you spend your time will fall into one or more of these SLA. They are:
In the book, I laid out several graphs and charts that showed the SLA as a pie chart, with some areas larger than others for different men, depending on the man’s personality, age, and where he was in life. I described how some of the SLA may not be important to you at all, and how that was okay. For example, you might be a single guy with no siblings, no kids, and parents who live far away. Therefore, the family side of your life is an area that doesn’t apply to you (at least for now) and that you don’t need to worry about.
- Financial
- Woman
- Physical
- Spiritual
- Family
- Social
- Recreational
In the book, I laid out several graphs and charts that showed the SLA as a pie chart, with some areas larger than others for different men, depending on the man’s personality, age, and where he was in life. I described how some of the SLA may not be important to you at all, and how that was okay. For example, you might be a single guy with no siblings, no kids, and parents who live far away. Therefore, the family side of your life is an area that doesn’t apply to you (at least for now) and that you don’t need to worry about.
Using myself as an example, the financial, woman, physical, family, and recreational sides of my life are very important to me. Family less so, since my kids are now grown up and the last one is moving out soon. The social side of my life is present, since I’m around people all the time, but I’m an introvert so it’s not very important to me. (That’s just me though; other Alpha 2.0’s consider their social life extremely important, as I described here.) I have a spiritual side, but in my opinion, focusing hard on your spiritual life when you’re younger than age 50 doesn’t make a lot of sense to me, so my spiritual life isn’t significant right now. This will change as I get older though.
I also talked about how the financial and woman sides of your life represent a fundamental baseline to masculine happiness, and how these two areas are always important to any man, regardless of anything else (age, personality, etc). This is because if you have no money and/or are literally never having sex, you won’t be very happy even if the other five SLA in your life are perfect.
This is why the vast majority of my content is focused on your financial and woman life; I know these two areas are important to you know matter what your personality is or how old you are. (These are also the two areas I happen to be best in, and thus, can render the most advice about.)
I also talked about how some areas of your SLA you’ll be good at, and others you’ll be weaker in. To again use me as an example, I’m great at financial (I’ve always been a “natural” at it). I used to be terrible with women, but I spent a few years and worked on that, so now I’m great at that too. I’ve always been bad at physical, and I’m still not very good at it (at least in my opinion) but I’ve gotten much better at it over the last ten years, and I’m continuing to grow there. And so on.
I also talked about how the financial and woman sides of your life represent a fundamental baseline to masculine happiness, and how these two areas are always important to any man, regardless of anything else (age, personality, etc). This is because if you have no money and/or are literally never having sex, you won’t be very happy even if the other five SLA in your life are perfect.
This is why the vast majority of my content is focused on your financial and woman life; I know these two areas are important to you know matter what your personality is or how old you are. (These are also the two areas I happen to be best in, and thus, can render the most advice about.)
I also talked about how some areas of your SLA you’ll be good at, and others you’ll be weaker in. To again use me as an example, I’m great at financial (I’ve always been a “natural” at it). I used to be terrible with women, but I spent a few years and worked on that, so now I’m great at that too. I’ve always been bad at physical, and I’m still not very good at it (at least in my opinion) but I’ve gotten much better at it over the last ten years, and I’m continuing to grow there. And so on.
The SLA provide a framework from which you can design your personal Code, Mission, and goals. Refer to chapters 7-10 in the book for more detail on all that.
Today, I’m going to cover an aspect of the SLA I didn’t really touch on in the book. It’s something I learned a very long time ago from one of my key mentors, Brian Tracy.
Once you’ve determined which of the SLA directly apply to you (and remember, not all of them will, and that’s okay) you should rank them all on a scale from 1 to10. Then, you should set goals on which ones to raise, and how much.
Today, I’m going to cover an aspect of the SLA I didn’t really touch on in the book. It’s something I learned a very long time ago from one of my key mentors, Brian Tracy.
Once you’ve determined which of the SLA directly apply to you (and remember, not all of them will, and that’s okay) you should rank them all on a scale from 1 to10. Then, you should set goals on which ones to raise, and how much.
Don’t get hung up on exactly what a “10” or a “5” means when you do this. It’s all subjective, and that’s fine. A financial life that’s a “10” to me might look different from a financial life that’s “10” to you. Just make your best guess on these things based on your personality and long-term goals.
Once again, I’ll use myself as an example. Here’s me when I was about 22 years old:
Financial:
I was working very hard, had pretty much no life, and was making money, but had debt and other problems. On the overall, things weren’t horrible, but not very good.
Here’s me when I was about 30 years old as a traditionally married, stressed-out beta male:
I was still working hard, making good money, had lots of debt, very high expenses, was monogamous and married well past the three year mark (which means lots of drama and not very much sex), and was decently overweight and out of shape. My family life was strong though, since I had re-oriented my time to spend more time with my kids and wife.
Again on the overall, things were not that great.
Here’s me today:
Today, my life is fucking fantastic, and I’m literally the happiest man I know who is not going though something to make him temporarily euphoric (like being a newlywed).
My financial life is fantastic; not quite to a 10 yet, but almost, and I’ll get to that 10 in a few more years. I love my work and all of my businesses are growing. It’s exciting!
My woman life is literally perfect; it’s exactly the way I’ve always wanted it and always fantasized. That’s what this blog and the Blackdragon books are all about.
My recreational life is also a perfect 10, my frequent international travel and set-my-own-schedule Alpha 2.0 lifestyle ensures that.
Physically, I am light-years beyond the typical American man my age (45), and my blood work shows that I’m very healthy, though I still have some weight to lose, which is irritating.
Everyone in my family is happy and doing well, and my relationship with everyone is very good, so family is easily an 8.
As I said, my social and spiritual sides don’t really apply to me at the moment, which is perfectly cool with me.
My life is awesome. Your life should be awesome too. Ranking your SLA will help you get there by providing a specific direction of where you need to place your energies.
If what I just described sounds out of reach for you, just remember that I’m older than most of you, and I’ve had a decent amount of time to work on these things. Also remember that at least one of your SLA, if not two, will be very easy for you and won’t be a lot of effort. Many of you have physical lives that are already at 8, 9, or 10 since that’s what comes easy for you (man, I wish!). Just remember that we all have different strengths and weaknesses, and start out at different levels with these things.
As always, your goal should be to maximize and capitalize on your strengths, and minimize your weaknesses. Given a little time and work, you can do both.
Once again, I’ll use myself as an example. Here’s me when I was about 22 years old:
Financial:
- Financial: 5
- Woman: 1
- Physical: 7 (it’s always easier to have a higher-ranked physical when you’re younger)
- Spiritual: NA
- Family: 5
- Social: NA
- Recreational: 3
I was working very hard, had pretty much no life, and was making money, but had debt and other problems. On the overall, things weren’t horrible, but not very good.
Here’s me when I was about 30 years old as a traditionally married, stressed-out beta male:
- Financial: 7
- Woman: 4
- Physical: 2
- Spiritual: NA
- Family: 8
- Social: NA
- Recreational: 3
I was still working hard, making good money, had lots of debt, very high expenses, was monogamous and married well past the three year mark (which means lots of drama and not very much sex), and was decently overweight and out of shape. My family life was strong though, since I had re-oriented my time to spend more time with my kids and wife.
Again on the overall, things were not that great.
Here’s me today:
- Financial: 9
- Woman: 10
- Physical: 7 compared to the typical American, 8.5 compared to the typical American male my age
- Spiritual: NA
- Family: 8
- Social: NA
- Recreational: 10
Today, my life is fucking fantastic, and I’m literally the happiest man I know who is not going though something to make him temporarily euphoric (like being a newlywed).
My financial life is fantastic; not quite to a 10 yet, but almost, and I’ll get to that 10 in a few more years. I love my work and all of my businesses are growing. It’s exciting!
My woman life is literally perfect; it’s exactly the way I’ve always wanted it and always fantasized. That’s what this blog and the Blackdragon books are all about.
My recreational life is also a perfect 10, my frequent international travel and set-my-own-schedule Alpha 2.0 lifestyle ensures that.
Physically, I am light-years beyond the typical American man my age (45), and my blood work shows that I’m very healthy, though I still have some weight to lose, which is irritating.
Everyone in my family is happy and doing well, and my relationship with everyone is very good, so family is easily an 8.
As I said, my social and spiritual sides don’t really apply to me at the moment, which is perfectly cool with me.
My life is awesome. Your life should be awesome too. Ranking your SLA will help you get there by providing a specific direction of where you need to place your energies.
If what I just described sounds out of reach for you, just remember that I’m older than most of you, and I’ve had a decent amount of time to work on these things. Also remember that at least one of your SLA, if not two, will be very easy for you and won’t be a lot of effort. Many of you have physical lives that are already at 8, 9, or 10 since that’s what comes easy for you (man, I wish!). Just remember that we all have different strengths and weaknesses, and start out at different levels with these things.
As always, your goal should be to maximize and capitalize on your strengths, and minimize your weaknesses. Given a little time and work, you can do both.
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