Our racial series continues. Last time we addressed black guys, this time we focus on Indian guys. When I say “Indian” I am referring to East Indians, men raised in or descended from India or similar countries, such as Sri Lanka.
Indian guys. Oh boy. Where do I begin?
As always, I’m going to give it to you straight, so get ready. Today is going to hurt.
Ever since entering the PUA world many years ago, I have seen a constant barrage of extreme beta and awfully clueless Indian guys on pickup blogs and forums asking for advice. They’re doing everything wrong; having horrifically terrible attitudes about themselves and women, refusing to do the correct things even when clearly told what to do, constantly spinning their wheels when it comes to women, and getting nowhere fast.
Of all the races, Indian guys have, by far, the most trouble with Western women and women in general. This is not because of how Indian guys look or how they are perceived, but rather the horrible attitudes most Indian men carry around with them when it comes to women (especially white women) and sex.
The culture in and from India has the most intense, anti-sex Societal Programming and worst ASD, by far, of any other culture on the planet. That’s saying a lot, because I’m including the Muslim Middle East in there. Those Muslims may have insane and sky-high anti-sex SP, but at least those guys can have up to four wives and can talk about sex freely with their buddies. In much of India, even indirectly talking about sex is forbidden, even when it’s required to do so for necessary medical, psychological, or parental reasons. India is a land of virgins, arranged marriages, and millions of adults who’ve had sex with just one person in their entire lives (and even then, I use the term “sex” loosely).
Over the years, I have been absolutely stunned and sickened at the stories Indian men have told me regarding the titanic sexual dysfunction inflicted upon them by their culture, their parents, and their upbringings. What Indian culture and Indian parents do to men is as nauseating as it is abusive. I could tell you about some of these stories, but I don’t want to ruin your day. And trust me, they would ruin your day.
As a result, there are millions of Indian uber-betas roaming the Earth harboring deeply ingrained views about sex, women, and masculinity that are completely ass-backwards. These men can look forward to a life of suffering unless they do some hard, painful work on themselves and their damaged psyches (or move back to India and never leave).
(Side note for you right-wingers: this destructive, authoritarian brainwashing is what’s required to make a society with a 1% divorce rate. Is it worth it? You be the judge.)
So it’s no surprise to me that Indian guys in the West need the most dating/relationship help and have the most trouble when compared to men of other races.
Where The Problem Is
If you’re an Indian man reading these words, you likely think that you’ve had trouble with women, particularly white women, because women “don’t like Indian guys.”
You’re having trouble for one reason and one reason only: Your culture and/or your Indian parents have brainwashed you with oceans of bullshit regarding sex, gender relations, and your status as a man. The problem is between your ears, not with women.
I know this because I personally know, and have personally coached, many Indian guys living in the West who get laid like rock stars or close to it, and yes, I mean they fuck lots of hot white girls. There are several in my coaching program. These men have successfully cleaned out all or most of the false SP their culture and parents poisoned them with. If you want to be successful with women, you must do the same. Otherwise, no dating or relationship techniques I or anyone else can offer will help you.
Moreover, I have met and/or dated numerous attractive white women who clearly tell me that Indian guys are “hot.” A recent MLTR of mine is white as they come, a hot 22 year-old girl, and she only dated Indian guys until I came along. Plenty of white women love Indian guys as long as they aren’t poisoned by their anti-sex Indian SP.
So if you think women don’t like you because you’re Indian, you’re dead wrong, and you’re being an idiot. Women don’t like you because you’re behaving like the dorky, sexually terrified, hyper-needy uber-beta that your Indian parents trained you to be since you were a small child. The minute you stop thinking like that guy is the minute you start getting laid.
Therefore, your first goal with getting better with women as an Indian man is to focus on cleaning out all of your false Indian SP regarding women and sex.
By the way, I’m not bashing your country or culture. India is an amazing, dynamic place and I’ll be spending a lot of time there next year. Indian guys are intelligent, hard working, and fun to hang out with. Some of my longest and closest business relationships have been with men from India. Your women are also super hot as I discussed regarding my recent trip to Fiji. I love you guys.
Yet, as I clearly describe in my book, just because your country/culture has some good ideas doesn’t mean it also has some really bad ones (this includes my culture too). Your Indian work ethic and family bonds are wonderful. Your views on sex and relationships suck ass. Keep the good stuff, but chuck that bad shit.
How do you do this?
Read the blogs and books about how to become a more confident, outcome independent Alpha Male. Do what they recommend. Focus more on inner game than tactical techniques. Put in the time and work on it. My book has several chapters on exactly how to clean out cultural SP and become more Alpha, but there are many other resources available. Devour this stuff and get to work on your mind. Make it your number one goal in life to clean out the bullshit from your brain so you can finally start getting laid like a normal Western guy.
Getting some personal coaching is also a very good idea. Of course I’m biased here because I sell coaching myself, and I’m good at it, but if you’d like to coach with some other manosphere, PUA, or life coaching guys, then please do. I have personally seen many Indian guys improve (and improve surprisingly fast) with coaching, from both my myself and others.
Also, and I really hate to say this but it’s the truth, many of you Indian guys have so much psychic damage from your parents and culture that you’ll probably need to go seek counseling in addition to coaching. I’m very serious about this. If your parents were the typical Indian ones who shamed you into being a pussy your whole life while never discussing anything sexual of any kind, you probably need to spend a few months seeing a counselor regularly so you can pull this garbage out of your mind and have someone help you objectively view it and remove it.
I could fill the rest of this article with specific techniques on how to behave more confidently and be less nerdy, but I’m going to save that for the next article in this series when I discuss Asian guys. Most of you Indian guys having trouble wouldn’t benefit from such advice anyway. Technique is not what most of you need. You need a change in mindset. All the tricks and tips aren’t going to do shit for you if you’re still carrying around this low self-esteem, anti-sex SP.
If I’ve sounded like an asshole today, realize that it’s coming from a place of caring. I’ve seen many Indian guys who could be super-player Alphas if they just took a few months and focused on surgically removing their bullshit from their brains instead of trying out the latest PUA technique. Getting good with women (of all races) as an Indian guy is a very achievable goal, I promise. I’ve seen it many times.
I’m hoping this article will be the beginning of a journey for you guys, not an end.
Now get to work.